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Forgive yourself for not giving yourself what is important to you

Sep 1st, 2010No Comments
“Did they get you to trade
Your heroes for ghosts?
Hot ashes for trees?
Hot air for a cool breeze?
Cold comfort for change?
Did you exchange a walk-on part in the war
For a lead role in a cage?”

Roger Waters, Pink Floyd, Wish You Were Here (listen to song on YouTube)

It was us that made the choices to walk way from the things we wanted most. Nobody took them from us. It just felt like that. We allowed it. We sold ourselves short. We gave up the things mattered most. We let ourselves down. We betrayed ourselves.

Our issue is with ourselves. We just keep projecting it on to everyone around us. It is too painful to admit that we did it to ourselves.

It is time we healed this. We need to make amends to ourselves. We must forgive ourselves for not giving ourselves the things we wanted most. Making amends has two parts: 1. Forgiving ourselves; 2. Promising ourselves that it will never happen again. Dealing with this prevents us from pushing it away.

Because… if we took it from ourselves- then we can still provide to ourselves. It is within our control. Everything you always wanted is still available to you. All of your dreams. They just may present themselves a little differently. The characters and set may be different, but the plot is the same. I promise you it is still there for you- if you just allow it. You have to believe in possibility.

All we have to do is accept that it was us that let our dream slip away, and forgive ourselves. Then we can stop pushing it away and start seeing possibilities.

Could get pretty scary and sad- but the stakes are high. And what have you got to lose? A lead role in a cage?

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See yourself as walking toward

Aug 9th, 2010No Comments

If you do not have what you want (yet), your ability to attain it depends on the way that you view yourself in relation to what you want.

Decide what you want and commit yourself to it. Know that it is going to happen- it is just a matter of time. Every day take another step closer to what you want. It could be a small step like making a phone call, sending an email, or researching something. But every day, take another step.

When you get frustrated with the lack of what you really want, remind yourself that you are walking toward it. You are not trapped in a static situation. You are moving forward. Soon you will have what you want.

How you view yourself in relation to what you want makes all the difference in the world. Usually we do not have what we want because we do not believe it is possible. We frustrate ourselves by the way we present it to ourselves. We say, “I am never going to have what I want.” Or, “Why can’t I ever have the things that I want,” and so on. No wonder we get depressed and give up. We are bumming ourselves out by the way we present it to ourselves.

Rather… see yourself as walking toward it. Your mind translates this as having it. Dare to believe that you will have it. Risk disappointment. Your ego will tell you, “I don’t want to get my hopes up only to be disappointed again.” Don’t buy it.

Make a list of all the things you will need to do to pull off what you want. Keep adding to the list. Then every morning ask yourself, “What is one thing I can do today to take another step toward what I want?” Refer to your list. At the end of the day, acknowledge it; see that you are closer to what you want. This keeps your momentum moving forward.

Until one day, you will take another step toward it, and you will realize that you have it.

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Time for a change? We all need a Metamorphosis.

Apr 14th, 2010No Comments

One of my greatest passions is reserving a weekend and guiding people through a complete personal change. I have received so much value from such events over the past 25 years- sometimes as a participant and sometimes as a facilitator.

When planning for this event, my marketing consultant, John Driscoll, had a great idea. Why not make it a weekend retreat instead of a weekend seminar? Then people could stay overnight, eat there, and have an uninterupted 45 hours to focus on themselves. I said let’s do it.
I am calling it a “Metamorphosis” Retreat. It will be at the Bear Creek Lodge by the beautiful Mt. Spokane. Many people do not allow themselves the life they want because they do not believe that it is possible. There is something about two days away from it all that evokes the clarity and insight into what is really important to you- and the extent you allow yourself to have it. I will use Native American ceremony, guided meditation, and sharing circles to walk participants through their own metamorphosis- in which they choose what to change into.
The retreat is Friday night, April 23 through Sunday afternoon April 25. There is still room. It includes meals and two nights of lodging at the Bear Creek Lodge. For more information call me at 509-850-7694, or email me at info@michaelhoffman.info.
So turn your cell phone off. Put the world on hold. It will still be there when you return. It just may look a little different.
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The possibilities of allowing things to unfold

Mar 29th, 2010No Comments

When I first learned to create things for myself, I tended to force things to happen. This was a huge improvement on being passive and feeling that things were happening to me.

But by forcing things to happen, we are limited to creating the thing that we have our sights set on. It is linear. “I want that job. I am going to make that happen.” When we do this, we push our energy out.
By creating an intention for what you want and allowing things to unfold, you open yourself to all the possibilities associated with that intention. There may be something more beneficial than what you initially identified for yourself. When we do this, we allow energy in.
Allowing things to unfold starts with clear intention. It has to get to the core of what you really want.
Then when allowing this to unfold you have to let go of the picture of what you wanted, so you can see all the possibilities that present themselves to you.
When something presents itself to you, it your responsibility (to yourself) to explore it. Possibilites or “doorways” will open themselves to you. You can poke your head in the door to explore it without fully committing or attaching to it. I call this “free flight.” If you see it is what you want, you surrender to it. If not, you move onto the next doorway that opens.
What possibilities are you presenting to yourself today? What doorways are opening? Are you allowing yourself to see them?
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You better believe it!

Mar 1st, 2010No Comments

We only allow ourselves to see the things that we believe are possible for ourselves. Otherwise, what we want could be right in front of us and we would not see it. Even if we saw it, we would discount it or push it away if we did not believe it is available to us.

Most people do not allow themselves to have what they want- because they do not believe that it is possible.

We have to somehow believe that what we want is possible. Once we believe what we want is possible, we will see it and allow ourselves to have it.
But the belief in possibility is the tough part.
It has to start with allowing yourself to have something you do believe is possible that is a step in the in the direction of what you want. Once you allow yourself to have that, you stretch your belief system to allow yourself another piece. You build confidence in yourself. Over time you come to believe that the thing you really want is possible. You prove it to yourself.
I was out on a date about a year ago and she said, “What I really want is to be a psychologist, but I could never do that.” In retrospect I wish I would have said, “Well, what about being a psychologist can you see yourself doing?” Then she would have a place to start.

So what do you really want? What is something about it that you believe is possible? That is the perfect place to start.
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