Give yourself information when making a decision

Jul 14th, 2010No Comments

Feel stuck or trapped? Need to make a decision? Give yourself information. One of the first things things we do when we feel conflict or indecision is cut ourselves off from getting information about the situation. Then we try to make a decision without having the necessary information.

Whenever you are feeling confused or indecisive, the first thing to ask yourself is: “Do you have enough information to make your decision?” Usually, you do not.

It may be that you are trying to make the decision prematurely before all the necessary information is in. This tendency is often due to the anxiety and uncertainty of the unknown. If this is the case, it is essential to back off, let the situation to unfold, and allow the necessary information to emerge.

Other times, you may feel trapped or overwhelmed by a decision. Your perspective of the situation becomes narrow and limited. Peter Gabriel’s 1978 song Perspective puts it, “I need perspective, ‘cos I’m facing the wall.” (Click here to listen to Perspective via YouTube) You stop seeing possibilities. You cease allowing yourself information. You try to make a decision that requires information that you are not allowing yourself.So… start giving yourself information. Do some research. Bounce your situation (or part of it) off some people you trust in order to broaden your perspective. Is there something that you do not understand about your decision? Ask some questions. Who would know about such things?

What does your heart say? Are you listening to it?

Or maybe you need information that only comes with experience. If so, orchestrate some experiences that will give you the information that you need. Test the nature of the relationship or situation in question. Invite the person into your world and watch what they do. Risk being yourself in a situation and see what happens. Soon you will be able to see the person as they are or the situation as it is. Then you are free to navigate through it.

Once you allow yourself enough information to see things clearly, possibilities will present themselves. You will see an inroad to get where you want to be. Your decision and what you need to do will be clear.

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Michael Hoffman’s passion is guiding people to connect with their natural gifts. He believes that we all have innate gifts that hugely benefit others and the world when we offer them. The purest example of these gifts is the Native American concept of medicine or the gift you offer your people. Michael defines your medicine or gift as the natural effect you have on other people when your heart is open. Unfortunately, the demands of our current culture to comply and fit in often distract people away from their inherent gifts and the natural expression of their being. Michael believes many of us have forgotten our dreams and what we are about. This sadly results in a loss of purpose, passion, and vitality. As an innate gift specialist, Michael offers retreats, classes, and individual sessions to allow people to reclaim their natural gifts. These venues allow people to identify, awaken, and offer their gifts. This experiential work incorporates Zen thought, Native American ceremony, rites-of-passage, and releasing limiting belief systems. Michael also maintains his meta blog to provide knowledge, skills, and awareness for unfolding your natural gifts. He is currently compiling this knowledge and research into a college class and book. Michael earned his Bachelor of Science in Psychology in 1987 and Master of Social Work in 1996. He is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. In addition to his formal education, Michael studied and apprenticed with a Zen Master and spiritual teacher for 22 years to learn how to guide people to understand themselves. He has worked with people professionally since 1986 as a psychotherapist and teacher. Michael currently resides in Oceanside, California.

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